After bariatric surgery, learning to thrive physically is only part of your journey. Nurturing your emotional well-being and building ego strength is equally essential as you adapt to your new body and lifestyle. Here is a guide to gaining the strength you will need to protect yourself from potential negative feedback, both from yourself and others.
Ego strength is a psychological concept that affects how well you deal with stress and conflict while maintaining your sense of self. After bariatric surgery, this becomes more important than ever as you navigate life in a new, unfamiliar body. Many patients experience post-op feelings of vulnerability and identity shifts that can become overwhelming. By building ego strength, you’ll have an easier time accepting yourself, making you more resilient as you continue on your health journey.
Emotional ups and downs are going to happen, and they may be more extreme than they’ve been in the past. Even if your resolve has been strong throughout your weight loss process, you may experience grief over your past self and life. Your self-image also may shift unexpectedly, like stressing over loose skin in ways you may have stressed about excess fat before. Remind yourself that your feelings are valid, and they are a normal part of this process.
One thing you will notice after making a major change in your life is that your support system may shift. Find the family and friends who supported you then and continue to support you now. You may also benefit from joining a local or online support group with others who have had bariatric surgery. If you feel that you’re still struggling despite the support system you’ve built, consider individual therapy or counseling to help you cope with these changes.
External support always helps, but it’s just as important to support yourself through this journey. Challenge negative self-talk, reminding yourself of all the work you’ve done to get here and what’s waiting for you on the other side. Focus on daily self-care practices, like skincare routines and meditation, to keep you on track. When you find yourself struggling with your identity, consider the non-physical things that make you who you are. Celebrate non-scale victories, like improved energy and mobility. Continue setting goals for yourself, especially ones unrelated to your weight.
The best thing you can do for yourself post op is to honor your progress, both on the physical and emotional sides. Strength comes from vulnerability and persistence during difficult times. You’ve come this far, and now it’s time to build the ego strength you need to appreciate your new, healthier self! If you need support, remember that you can always reach out to me.
